Category Archive: Church Scattered

How To Stay Calm Under Pressure At Work

Posted by on September 15, 2017

We all are dealing with incredible amounts of stress at work with no end in sight.  Therefore, we must learn how to turn all of that energy into effective habits that increase our productivity not minimize it.  Many times the critical factor is simply our perspective about the stress and not the stress event itself.  This Forbes post was very practical:

“I once had a client who was constantly frazzled with intense anxiety every time she even thought about work. It was not only affecting her productivity, but also her quality of life! We put a plan in place to help her feel in control again, and now she has a better idea of how to manage stress in the workplace.”

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The 10 Best Decisions I've Made In Marriage

Posted by on September 8, 2017

So many ups and downs, good days and bad describe most marriages.  You are living with another person that deserves your best while seeing you at your worst.  If our primary motive is to manipulate change in the other person for our own benefit then the marriage will probably never last.  Mark Merrill and his wife Susan always provide great wisdom:

“As my wife Susan and I were writing our newly released books, Lists to Love By for Busy Husbands and Lists to Love by for Busy Wives, I spent a lot of time reflecting on our marriage and life together. I also thought about some of the choices I have made along the way. Here are the 10 best decisions I (and Susan too) have made in marriage.”

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Four Things Leaders Must Do When Times Are Tough

Posted by on September 4, 2017

In normal business cycles change is always there and we are able to realign our company cultures to continue to be effective.  Today disruption is the norm with multiple parts of our value chain changing and never coming back.  Leaders must be dealers in hope that the future will be better than the present.  This Forbes post is excellent:

“The average lifespan of a company in the S&P 500 was 67 years in the 1920s. Today, it’s under 15.  Companies have to adapt to new environments and situations faster than ever before, and the threat of macroeconomic turmoil and business model disruption is as high as it ever has been.”

As a leader, what can you do in the midst of these challenges? In difficult times, research shows that the key is to instill trust, compassion, stability and hope.

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How To Forget About Work When You're Not Working

Posted by on September 1, 2017

I read and coach a lot about the incredible challenge of work-life balance.  I have never had a client that does not have this subject on the top three list of things they want to address.  I am convinced that life integration is the key to resolving many of these tensions.  This HBR post gives some practical advise:

“When was the last time you got away from work?  I mean truly got away from it: didn’t think about it, didn’t worry about it, didn’t have a to-do list rattling around in your brain.

Most of us know there are benefits to getting away from work. We know we need time to recharge each day in order to be able to sustain our attention in the office. We know time away from complex problems allows us to find a fresh perspective. We know if we work too many long days in a row we’ll find ourselves doing what I affectionately call “fake work” — sitting at our desks without actually accomplishing anything.”

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Nine Strategies To Reduce Stress

Posted by on August 18, 2017

The inability to sustain margin may be the biggest challenge we face in this always on world we live in.  It seems like the demands of work and home always exceed our capacity to meet them.  Since so many factors are outside of my control, I must discipline myself to own the choices I can make.  This post by the Coaches Council was very helpful:

“Stress is a part of life, especially business life. There are simply too many things that require your attention, which means that it’s far too easy to get overwhelmed, or worn down, by worries about the consequences of poor choices or imagined futures.

Managing stress, therefore, is vital, especially when you’re managing others. Teams look to their leads for direction, and people will pick up on signs that things aren’t right.”

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8 Things To Avoid For A Healthy Marriage

Posted by on August 11, 2017

This is a subject I know far too much about when in the category of what not to do instead of follow me.  Probably learning how to communicate effectively when your feelings are hurt would move to the top of the list. On the one extreme we can’t stuff our emotions inside and on the other we can’t just dump them out either.   This post by Mark Merrill is a good reminder for all:

“It’s not that there’s anything really wrong with your marriage. You love each other and do life together pretty well. It’s just that you sense that things are not really humming along. They are more ho-humming.

I’ve previously shared with you what you can do when you want more, when you want to enrich your marriage. If you are wanting more out of life and more from your marriage, I’d like to share with you 8 things not to do in your marriage.”

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Four Work-Life Questions To Ponder On Vacation

Posted by on July 26, 2017

My life is spent doing a lot of executive coaching.  When we start a coaching relationship, I ask people to fill out a personal profile form to help me understand their needs.  Without exception the issue of work-life balance is always identified as a major problem.  This Fast Company post will help us all:

“You packed your favorite journal and a couple of pens. You planned some time on the beach, or left an afternoon empty to find a table at an outdoor cafe where you can grab an ice-cold drink and just think. This vacation, you’ve told yourself, you’re finally going to be able to take a break and get some clarity.  But clarity about what, exactly?”

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Overcome The Fear That's Holding You Back

Posted by on July 24, 2017

A reactive mindset at its core is that circumstances are the reason we are the way we are and not the choices we make everyday.  This lack of ability to proactively lead ourselves creates a fear that paralyzes us and we get stuck in unhealthy places.  This post by Michael Hyatt gives us a path forward:

“Many of us know what it’s like to feel stuck in our careers. We settle into a particular role and one day we look up and wonder why we’ve spent so long doing something we’re not fully invested in.  There are many reasons why this happens, but a big one is fear of failure. We know we can do this one thing, and we don’t want to risk bellyflopping if we try something else.”

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3 Secrets To Great Leadership

Posted by on July 21, 2017

Some books that I have read have up to 21 different principles involved in great leadership.  They are all true but when I need to hit the reset button, the list must be much shorter.  The issues of core values and passion that line up with my strengths always top my list. This post by Kathleen Gadsby talks about her short list:

“However, leadership is so much more than learning the skills to perform within the outlined job description. I believe great leadership is, above all, knowing and leading from our true selves. When we are able to do this, the “what” of the job falls into place.  To lead from your true self, consider these questions:

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The Changing Role Of Leadership In The 21st Century

Posted by on July 11, 2017

The days of all decisions being made solely at the top with a few people involved are fading fast.  Throughout the Industrial Age of leadership during the last half of 20th century this was the only model of leadership.  The overwhelming percentage of the workforce was for the most part simply telling time based on the clear instructions that were given for them to follow.

Today we are leading from an Information and Idea Age model of leadership.  The entire development process has been delegated to various teams so that everyone who can contribute will be involved.  In essence people are now being asked to help build the clock.

Most people think the changing role of the top executives is by far the most dramatic shift that has occurred.  In a sense of scope that may be true.  Key leaders today do not have to know all the answers to all the questions, they only need to know what are the right questions to ask?

There primary responsibility today is to make sure they have the best possible people on their team because the quality and success of the clocks they are making will determine the future success of the entire organization.

The most dramatic shift in leadership today certainly from a standpoint of scale is not at the top but in the middle of organizations.  There is a big difference in telling time compared to building clocks.  Today people are daily being asked what do you think and what would you recommend?

Many organizations are caught in the middle of this transition and seem to be stuck.  The problem could be that you are asking people who only know how to tell time to build clocks and they are not capable of making that change.  Don’t give up on clock building just find the right people who know how to build great clocks and you will be fine.